Strap-on Play : where to start

Consider your desires before making your big purchase. Will this toy be worn just by you, or both you and a partner? If sharing a strap-on, consider if the same style harness is ideal for both your bodies. An ill-fitting harness can turn a hot, sweaty sex-perience into an awkward fumble. 

SpareParts Hardwear creates some of the best harnesses on the market. Their Joque design is highly adjustable, making it a great choice for couples or newcomers. This harness holds the strap-on tight against your body, offering more control to the wearer. While there are multiple adjustment points, once you’ve tailored the Joque to your body it can be quickly put on or removed via the velcro waistband, leaving the other straps just where you want them.

Heading out for a hot night? Underwear style harnesses offer the comfort of clothing with added benefits! Styles range from the masculine and androgynous Tomboi boxer or brief harnesses to those with a sexy lingerie aesthetic like the Sasha or Bella. The looser fit offered by boxer-brief styles can create a sensation of movement and friction against the wearer, which some folks prefer over a tighter-fitting harness.

Underwear styled harnesses have fewer (if any) straps or adjustment points which means they’re intuitive to use but may be difficult to share if you and your partner have different body types. If you’re seeking a harness with a little extra room, our plus-size harness selection offers sexy strap-on options for bodies with extra fluff. Check out our blog post devoted to plus sized pussies for specific recommendations.

Many harness styles offer a small pocket (or two!) for bullet vibes that add sensation for both the wearer and receiver. All of the lesbian harnesses we carry have adjustable o-rings that will accommodate multiple dildo sizes. However, if you find your dildo of choice needs extra stability, the Spareparts Hardwear Stabilizer will offer support for heavier dildos or those with narrow shafts that can turn or slide out during play. Another great option is the BumpHer, which can be affixed to the base of any dildo and provides cushion and stimulation for the wearer, while also adding stability.

Inclusive Orgasms For All Genders

Anyone can incorporate strap-on play into their sex lives. However, for transgender and other gender non-conforming individuals, discovering the perfect harness and dildo combination can be exceptionally empowering. If you or your lover experience dysphoria related to your lower bits, having this body-affirming tool in the bedroom can increase confidence and overall sexual gratification.

Wet For Her offers realistic dildos and packers with the transmasculine community in mind. Soft packers can be fun for gender play or daily wear, and can be worn with any harnessin our shop, but the Pete Freestyle harness is specifically designed for comfortable and stealthy all-day wear paired with soft packers or STP’s.

Keep It Clean, So You Can Play Dirty

A good strap-on harness is an investment, so it’s important to care for yours properly in order to ensure a long lifetime of play. All the Wet For Her harnesses are machine-washable or can be handwashed with hot water plus gentle soap or sex toy cleaner. Pay attention to any folds in the material where fluid could get trapped, and be sure to air dry to maintain the integrity of the fibers.

There are no wrong decisions regarding which dildo and harness pairing is right for you. As long as it feels good and works effectively, it’s the right fit for your body. So find the toy that turns you on and get to thrusting!